First off, I’m extremely sorry for the timing of this post. It should have been done a long time ago but as you read on, I hope you understand why it wasn’t. You see, the months between November – February are generally the ones where most people in this part of the world (including your parents) decide to get married. Weddings in India are a lavish affair (as was your parents) and generally go on for days, sometimes weeks, together. The last few months for us a family (with the exception of your nani), have been spent attending these wedding celebrations and the other occasions that come along with it. And every single wedding that we attended, took us back to 5 years ago.
5 years ago was when your parents’ wedding celebrations began. Held from the 25th – 30th of December, 2010, their wedding was a week - long affair that eventually turned out to be one of the most cherished memories of your mother’s life. Today, we cannot get ourselves to look at another bride without remembering how beautiful our Sam looked in that gorgeous red dress of hers. How your nani and she spent months together trying to zero in on a designer who would do justice to those sharp features. And when they finally did zero in on one, how she’d wait for hours at the designers store arguing about the smallest bit of detail that had gone wrong. We cannot help but think about how she wanted her dress to be so perfect in every sense of the word, and owing to all of that attention to detail, how she made the most perfect bride that there ever was!
It is difficult for us to attend a Sangeet function now without going back to the time when all of us – from Big Dadi to little Alia (who I guess was the youngest guest at the time) – were close to breaking a leg or two with all the dancing. There are certain songs that epitomize a particular situation or person forever and your parent's Sangeet has left us with a number of those. From Ainvayi Ainvayi Lut Gaya to Soniyo, from Dum Maaro Dum to Sheila Ki Jawani, there’s hardly a song from the 2010 -2011 era that we can listen to now without going back to 5 years ago. Such fun memories indeed :)
I remember a month or two before the wedding Sam had told me how she felt that I wasn’t helping out at all with the preparations because I was so caught up with work. I felt terrible about it and in order to make it up to her, I decided to throw her a pre wedding party. She was ecstatic (as always) and the invitations were sent out immediately. The party, however, saw its fair share of drama owing to certain things beyond our control, as a result of which it didn’t quite turn out to be the success that I would have liked. I woke up the next morning, feeling terrible about the fact that I couldn’t even give her a decent party and was unsure of how to face her. She came up to me that morning and I told her how sorry I was, to which she laughed and said, “About what? It was the most fun I’ve ever had!” I smiled at her, assured like never before that this sister of mine is indeed special. I wish she was around to throw me a pre wedding party as well but I guess I’m comfortable in the knowledge that she’s going to work her magic from up there to ensure that things go just the way as she would have liked.
As I write this post, I realize it’s been 4 months since I last spoke to your mother. Our last few conversations centered mainly around how you envisioned the most perfect wedding for yourself and how your Mamma could just not be married to your Daddy because, voila, she was married to your Dadaji! It gave her, and all of us, so much joy to listen to you go on and on about your crazy ideas for your wedding because there suddenly came a phase in your life where that was all you wanted to do – to get married to your Daddy! And it was so adorable! Armeen, every girl wishes to have a wedding just like her parents’ where it’s not about how grand or lavish the functions are, but about how warm and loving the couple is. I hope I have a wedding like your parents’ and I know you will have one just like theirs too – because, like I said before, Mamma is constantly working her magic up there! :)